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I would like to believe that in today’s society, when people are looking for a partner, they judge the person based on their character, personality and goals in life. But for some strange reason, many women judge their partner based on their penis size, believing that this is related to how good they are at having sex. There are many people that believe that bigger is better, but that is far from the truth. Bigger doesn’t always mean better, but smaller doesn’t necessarily mean better, either.
In my personal experience, having a partner with too big of a penis can be overwhelming. There are times where I just don’t know where to put it. However, having a partner with a really small penis can be awful – it’s like having a Q-tip stuck in your vagina.
For example, I once had a partner with one of the biggest penises I have ever seen. I was speechless. When it came to us having sex, not only was I bored out of my mind; I was in pain, too. Like I said, bigger doesn’t always mean better.
On the other hand, when I had sex with a guy with a small penis, I didn’t realize that we were having sex until about two minutes in. I had to fake the entire thing just so he wouldn’t get “small penis syndrome,” or the anxiety of thinking one’s penis is too small.
Many men take pride in the size of their penis. They believe that it will feed the sexual appetite of their partner. Yet in reality, it doesn’t do much. A vagina is only 3 to 4 inches deep, meaning that an enormous-sized penis could not fit in an averaged-sized vagina.
The truth is that the length of a penis plays a major role when it comes to sperm and sexual intercourse. According to the Medical Daily, the longer the penis, the more effective it is at removing rival sperm during intercourse. The deeper the vagina is, the better it is for semen displacement.
But in a study that was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers recorded the sexual history of 232 women. Researchers asked the women questions about penile-vaginal intercourse. The researchers found that 33.8 percent of women claimed that bigger was better, 60 percent said size didn’t matter and 6.3 percent said they preferred shorter penises. Overall, the study concluded that more women reported having an orgasm with a man with a longer penis.
From my experiences, though, I realized that size isn’t the only factor in considering who is good at having sex. The two boys I mentioned weren’t bad at having sex because of the size of their penis; they were bad because they didn’t know what they were doing. Both of these guys did the same thing — they focused on themselves and not on their partner. They got their dicks wet, but they couldn’t get me wet.
When looking for a partner who’s good at sex, it’s most important to consider the sexual chemistry you have with that person. If you’re just having sex with that person to have sex, it might not be as good as you expected. Plus, it’s also important to think about how good your partner is at having sex. Ask yourself these questions: does he like foreplay? If so, for how long? Vitally, does he like to please you over himself?
These are all important to consider when you want to have great sex. Size can be important, but it isn’t the only thing that affects the sex in a relationship.
Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Alex Myers at alexandra.myers@colorado.edu.