In college, it is likely that you see many people with a hook-up buddy or a booty call. A hook-up buddy is a relationship between two people who meet up for any kind of action. This can include cuddling or intercourse. Sometimes a hook-up buddy can turn into a booty call, which consists of your hook-up buddy calling or texting you to have sex. It is more likely for people in college to have a hook-up buddy because it’s the time to experiment and express yourself. Having a booty call is beneficial to you when you need to satisfy your needs. It’s a lot easier to do that now than when you are in your late 20s. However, a booty call can be infuriating when they decide to call you at times that disrupt your life, or the hook-up only lasts a few short minutes. In those instances, a person needs to realize it is time to say no to the booty call until they can show you some respect and you and your partner are receiving the same benefits.
I always hated when I was called for a booty call hours after I came home from going out. I would then make my way across campus to his place, be there for 15 minutes, then make my way home.
When I first got into my hook-up buddy or booty call relationship, I would go and see him no matter what time he called. Our relationship changed once he realized that he was calling the shots in the affair. The hook-up went from lasting all night to 15 minutes. It got to the point where I eventually had to end it.
After a few times of hanging out, I’d started to realize that when I received a text or a phone call at absurd hours of the night from my booty call, he only wanted to satisfy himself. It is pointless leaving your house or dorm to meet up with your hook-up buddy so they can just pleasure themselves. It is better for there to be a mutual relationship of gratification.
Also, going to see your booty call or hook-up buddy right after they called you at ridiculous hours of the night might make you seem easy. This may cause them to lose respect for you and lead them to think that they have the power in the relationship. They will eventually start to think they can treat you any way they want. If your booty call does not respect you, you won’t be able to cultivate a mutual relationship of satisfaction.
Through my experience, I started to recognize that with a booty call or a hook-up buddy, it would never be anything more than that. It was a lot of fun while it lasted. Having a booty call is nice for a while, but it can become extremely awkward after it ends.
When I ended my relationship with my hook-up buddy, I constantly tried to avoid him. But we always ended up running into each other because we had class together. We would awkwardly say “hi” and act like nothing ever happened. Still, to this day, I see him around.
I’m not saying having a booty call or a hook-up buddy is bad. However, when beginning the relationship you must establish guidelines. Both of you should discuss how each other deserves respect and that you are only with each other because of one thing. You should both clarify what you want and what your expectations are. If you and your partner end things, make it clear that you want to stay friends or acquaintances so you will never have to experience the awkward situation that I had to go through.
Even though I eventually decided to end my relationship with my booty call, I don’t regret having one. I believe it is important for everyone to have someone to satisfy their needs. Just always remember, when you are trying to find a partner, try to find someone who wants you both to be satisfied.
Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Alexandra Myers at alexandra.myers@colorado.edu.
