Opinion: Sex? Don’t say that!
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It’s taboo to talk about sex. When the word “vagina” is put out there, most people turn their noses up in disgust.
Talking about sex is embarrassing. It’s no secret that judgment is attached to talking about it. Most people are too scared to even bring up the subject, knowing there is chance that mouths will drop.
In reality, sex is one of the most natural things in our lives. So, let’s ask the question. Why shouldn’t we talk about sex?
If you look at any part of pop culture: hit movies, top songs and even magazines, sex is everywhere. Even in college, where sex isn’t an unusual event, most people turn bright red and change the subject anytime sex comes up in a conversation.
Now, talking about sex does not mean going out and having it left and right, or telling everyone in your recitation class about your sex life. By talking about it, I mean changing sex from the most avoided topic to a less-awkward one that more people are comfortable with.
Ever since I was in fifth grade and the discussion of sex came up in health class, I was intrigued. When I got a little older it became clear to me that talking about sex with others wasn’t very appropriate, but I did it anyway.
After a while, it was just something I brought up on a normal basis and my friends came to accept it. As time went by, people began to come to me to talk about anything sex-related. No, I’m not a promiscuous; I just love talking about sex!
There is nothing better than giggling with friends about the crazy things you did the past weekend. It’s nice to be able to talk about the feeling you have about the new boy you met, or the crazy experimental activities you and your boyfriend tried in the bedroom.
Being more open is fun! Talking about sex has been awkward since fifth grade when we all sat in class and cringed at the idea of “how babies are made.” But think about how good it would feel if the topic of sex made you giddy instead of making your cheeks burn from embarrassment.
There are so many sex-related problems: STIs, pregnancy, hostility between parents and their children, and many more. If talking about sex became more of a norm, partners would be more open about their sexual pasts. Curious teenagers wouldn’t feel uncomfortable asking parents to give them “the talk,” and walking into a grocery store to buy condoms wouldn’t be embarrassing. In reality, you can’t avoid the fact that sex led to all of our existences, so we might as well embrace the topic.
Granted, there are places where we should avoid the subject, such as a brunch with the grandparents, but overall, talking about sex would take the elephant out of the room and instead fill it with laughter and fun.
Somewhere deep down, talking about sex seems enjoyable, right? So the next time you are at a loss for words, just bring up the topic of sex. See what happens. Open yourself up and you may find sex to be your new favorite conversation starter.
Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Hannah Flink at Hannah.flink@colorado.edu.
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2 Comments
Why doesn’t the CU:I have any men sex columnists? I think it would be interesting to run the two perspectives in a point-counterpoint style.
Maybe I don’t read the site closely enough, but I’ve only ever seen women tackling the sex beat.
I also don’t know why more people don’t talk about putting things in their butts.
You know, like Eddie Murphy said: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07P538K83iU